I have been with my partner for nearly 7yrs and we have two wonderful children together. I have always known that my partner has 2 children from his previous relationships but he has neva been able to have contact with them. However recently on his facebook account he found the mother of one of the children and they r now talkin and discussing the child. While i have no problem with them being amicable for the child's sake and i am very happy 4 him and my daughter that they may have contact with her at last i can't help feelin a bit weird about the whole thing. I knew this was goin to happen one day i just didn't realise how it would feel. He spent the whole of last nite on msn talkin to her till gone midnight and not just about the child. Am i wrong to feel like this ? All i keep doin is bursting into tears. Whilst he is around i tell him i am happy 4 him and i understand.... i am and i'm not lying but i can't help these other feelings i don't know how i am meant to feel and i am very worried that now its come to it i wont b able to deal with it. I have no worries about how i will get on with the child when the time comes i am just not too happy with the amount of contact thats goin to have to go on between my partner and his x.

Hiley, first of all your feelings are perfectly OK. Really, it is completely understandable how you feel and never feel bad about this.

That said, now more than ever, great communication is incredibly important between you and your partner. If and when you feel up to it, I believe that talking to your partner about how you feel would be so beneficial to both of you. Tell him your feelings and find out how he is feeling. If both of you love each other try to talk about it. This is not the easiest task, but I believe it is necessary. I have found that it is not always good to keep everything inside. Tell him how wonderful it is that he may once again have a relationship with his other children, but also talk about your concerns. These are not silly concerns and he should understand. After all, you are not attacking him, instead you are mentioning this because it has really been on your mind and you are struggling because you love him and want to show how you feel.

Who knows, maybe he'll see where you are coming from and include you in conversations he has with his other children or even his previous partner.

Every relationship has its hurdles, but I really believe that if both people love each other, they become stronger after every situation. Communication is soooo important.

I hope all goes well

I agree with batman's advice. Here's a quote for you!

Quote of the Day
"Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for truth."
– Benjamin Disraeli

What you are feeling is real. Just hang in there and tell your partner how you feel. Good luck!